The desire of being loved, appreciated and accepted is an indispensable aspect of human nature. There is no exaggeration in calling love as one of the basic human needs. However, our search for love often makes us victim of our loneliness and indulge in emotionally abusive relationships. An emotionally abusive relationship is one in which the other person take you as an object or a thing of fun.
Sometimes our intense desire of being loved often makes us accept certain people and relationships which are not meant for us or are probably just our reaction to our lust and infatuation towards the other person or opposite sex. Such relationships may seem fascinating in the beginning, but they may leave you with regret and resentment.
It is a common scenario: When a guy meets girl, he wants to have fun with his girl but he want to date other girls too. On the contrary, girls usually want to date guy and tries to keep his attention. Sometimes she may stay too long with a guy who isn’t right for her. It is essential to know that having strong feelings for someone can make you think you’re in love when you’re actually in lust or infatuated. Here’s the important distinction between love, lust and infatuation:
Lust is a physical emotion and sexual reaction of your body to the physical appearance or sexuality of the other person. It is usually short lived and it is often about instant gratification.
Infatuation is also when you are physically attracted to someone or you are just attracted to the idea of being in love with someone and you deliberately create an image of other person as your lover and it often becomes obsessive. When you are infatuated towards a person, you often look at them with rose-coloured glasses on the basis of your imagination and ignore who he really is— good or bad. It often makes people behave irrationally and get caught up in their own feelings.
The intensity of feeling in lust as well as infatuation may make you think that you are in love. When the guy you are lusting after doesn’t feel the same way, you feel disappointed and regard the feeling as love. You start believing love is hard and painful. However, love is not hard and painful and it is not connected to physical intimacy. Though, physical intimacy and love co-exist in a romantic relationship between a man and his woman.
Lust and infatuation are usually fugacious and short lived. On the other hand, love makes two persons connected on a level of mind, body and soul.
· Don’t let the feeling of lust and infatuation dominate you. You must give time to your relationship before getting physically intimate and emotionally attached to the other person.
· The person you love must show love and affection not just in words but in deeds as well.
· If a person express by words or deeds that they merely have physical interest and no affection for you, don’t chase them. Life is full of beautiful surprises for you and you deserve the best of them.
It is equally important to love yourself as much as you love others. Love yourself and the world will fall in love with you.